Many of us are aware that we carry parts of our behavior, upbringing, and our childhood memories into adulthood. As adults we learn to control our behavior or hide behind a mask. But in truth the shyness is always there until corrected. Belly dancing is a fun remedy for overcoming shyness.
Gathering knowledge and understanding the causes for some of our emotional shortcomings is the express train for corrections.
Let’s take some time to review our childhood and observe if we have brought our shyness into adulthood.
Do you recall one or both parents completing your sentences every time you spoke? This was done often with me and it created communication problems with other people. Whenever a person speaks and is interrupted before finishing their sentence, it makes a person feel stupid, ignored, or whatever you have to say is not important or relevant. Therefore, you stop talking to people and retreat into your private world. An attitude of “Why bother, they’re not going to listen to me anyway” develops.
Learning belly dancing for self helps to build confidence. As you progress through the dance the self within sees the reflection in the mirror and acknowledges with pride in the dance skills and techniques which have been learned. Positive self-praise is good.
The discipline needed in this art form sets goals to be accomplished from the beginning to its completion. Dancing with music is teamwork to complete your sentence from its beginning to its conclusion. This is the unconscious spirit which transfers into daily life and builds self-esteem, self-worth, and self-confidence as an individual and these values will transfer into social situations. Shyness is defeated.
Another factor which causes shyness is lack of praise. Parents, care takers, baby sitters, and other adults which oversee children need to praise children. The shy person experiences shock when complimented and does not know how to reply or is uncomfortable under the spotlight.
Belly dancing offers two scenarios which help with receiving praises.
One is the choice of a show name which is used in performances. This name is a mask which temporarily hides its performer. However, with time the individual recognizes that the mask and the person are the same. Praises are welcomed without feeling uneasy or not knowing how to respond. The simplest response is “Thank you”.
Secondly, the act of performing in front of one or many people brings praises. You are instantly rewarded. The dance costume, like the mask, is hiding the true individual. But, once again, the person within is the originator and master receiving praises. Props are never praised. It is not the mask or the costume; it is the individual who is receiving the accolades.